True Love

Dear San Francisco Jewelry Doctor:

 

Not sure you can help, but it’s worth a try. My girlfriend laid down the law: no gifts this year! That’s partly due to the pandemic, and partly because we’re saving for a house.

 

“I know you,” she said. “Valentine’s Day is coming, and you’re going to want to give me jewelry. Don’t even think about it.”

 

But I really want to give her something! Especially at Valentine’s Day, which I know some people think is corny but which I really look forward to each year because it’s a time when everybody, all over creation (well, at least, in the U. S.), is saying, “I love you.” My friends say, “What’s your problem? Just get her something. Tell her you found it somewhere.”

 

Sitting on My Hands

 

Dear SMH:

 

Well, your heart is certainly in the right place: You want to honor your girlfriend’s wishes, and you also want to give her a gift.

 

Your Jewelry Doctor, like all good doctors, makes a practice of not “over-treating”—i.e., recommending things that are not needed. So the question becomes, “Should you just sit this one out?”

 

Maybe. But there’s another option. Why not have a conversation with your girlfriend specifically about Valentine’s Day? Tell her how important it is to you to be able to give her a present. (Since the holiday is about a week away, I’d have that conversation sooner 

than later.)

 

If she says okay, we can put our heads together about a great gift for her. If not, you know where to reach us when the time is right.

 

Love,

 

The San Francisco Jewelry Doctor

 

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